Vote Against “Gay Marriage”
In America, we have the amazing privilege of actually being a small portion of our government. But with this privilege comes the question of what we will do with the political movement that seeks to make homosexual marriage legal. Most conservative Christians would probably impulsively respond to this question by voting against laws to pass “gay marriage.” But let’s think through this, considering it is no light matter.
If homosexuality isn’t primarily a political issue but a spiritual one (see next point below), why should we be concerned with homosexuality on a political level at all? Isn’t it irrelevant whether homosexual marriage passes? If homosexuals already have the political right to practice homosexuality and live together with their homosexual partner, why should we disallow them from being seen as married in the government’s eyes? Are the said “government’s eyes” that important to us? There are several Christian moral standards that are not regulated by law for which Christians are not trying to push legislation (i.e., sex outside of marriage, lust, greed, using the Lord’s name as a curse word, homosexual practice, etc.) Is it the Christian’s duty to try to impose Christian ethics on others through the political realm? And if so, how do we determine which of our views we should seek to put into law as legal requirements? All of these questions are extremely good reasons not to immediately assume that we should vote against “gay marriage.”
However, although I believe “gay marriage” will eventually be legalized (and we’ll have to deal with it), and although homosexuality in the political realm is not our primary concern, and although becoming overly involved in this political debate can actually hinder our witness, I believe that as Christians who hold to the Bible as our sole authority of faith and practice, we should vote against the legalization of “gay marriage” and for the preservation of marriage as between one man and one woman. Allow me provide you two reasons why.
The first reason is love for God (Matthew 22:38). As American Christians who have been bestowed by God with the privilege of being able to govern our country (to at least some degree), we are responsible to God for how we steward this responsibility. By voting against “gay marriage” or for the preservation of true, Biblical marriage, we honor God by honoring His institution of marriage.
Notice that I called marriage “His institution.” Since God created man and woman, and since He created the institution of marriage, God is the only one who can define what marriage is. And He defines it in His word as between one man and one woman (Genesis 1:27-28; 2:23; Matthew 19:4-6; Ephesians 5:24-32).
And therefore, in light of this scriptural reality, same sex marriage is actually not possible, seeing that marriage is by definition, as provided by God who created marriage, between one man and one woman. “Homosexual marriage” is an oxymoron.
In sum, my point is that although our nation will most assuredly and eventually abandon the Biblical, God-given definition of marriage, I believe as Christians we have the personal responsibility to uphold it with as much political influence as we have been given. So, my reasoning isn’t actually politically driven, but theologically driven—will we personally honor God’s truth about marriage even if no one else does?
The second reason is love for others (Matthew 22:39). Allow me to explain. Although our culture would have us believe that supporting “gay marriage” is a loving act, it is actually quite unloving to support or even remain silent and be passive concerning a practice (if not repented of) that excludes your neighbor from the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
Although our culture would disagree, God’s way is far better than our sinful inventions. And when I say “better,” I’m not talking solely about the fact that God’s way is moral, ethical, righteous, and holy. I’m talking about the fact that God’s ways are far more satisfying, far more fulfilling, and far less damaging and hurtful. As Al Mohler says,
Our confidence is that God condemns those things that will bring his human creatures harm and commands those things that will lead to true human happiness and flourishing.
In other words, we understand that the Bible condemns all forms of sin because our Creator knows what is best for us.
Just a sampling of David’s words in Psalm 119 shows us this reality. But he states this truth most pointedly I believe in verse 129.
Your testimonies are wonderful; therefore my soul keeps them.
In other word, God’s commands aren’t just the right way, they are the “better” and “best” way (i.e., heterosexual, monogamous, Christian marriage is the “best” for sexual, emotional, and relational satisfaction and successful parenting). Supporting that which is contrary to God’s way (i.e., “homosexual marriage”) is therefore unloving.
Remember that Homosexuality is Ultimately a Spiritual Issue, not a Political One
If we think that our primary fight is to make sure gay marriage doesn’t pass, we our blind to the real issue. News flash, gay marriage will eventually pass and we’re going to have to accept that. But as Christians, our primary concern should never be politics. If we think that we lose the battle on the day “gay marriage” is legalized, we’ve missing the primary target. And if my being a political snob is hindering my ministry to homosexuals, my priorities are really messed up.
Honestly, comparatively speaking, who cares about whether a political law passes or not when we have actual human beings at stake who desperately need to be saved from their sin and the wrath of God.
Be careful not to become overly consumed with homosexuality as a political issue. Don’t ignore people for politics.
Don’t Simply Be Pragmatic or Moralistic; Evangelize
If all we do is tell people to avoid homosexuality (or other sexual sins) we have missed the point. If all we do is tell people to abstain from homosexual activity because satisfying one’s sexual needs in the confines of monogamous, heterosexual, lifelong marriage is far better, far more satisfying, and far less problematic, then we are simply being pragmatic (arguing based on what “works” the best) and have missed the point. If all we do is tell people to refrain from homosexuality because God says it’s wrong, we are simply being moralistic.
Now granted, pragmatism and moralism actually do have some value to them because they tell us what works best and show us what is ethical. But left alone, they are dead-end roads. Pragmatism will never meet one’s ultimate need—being made right with God. If all we ever do is preach ethics, we are only preaching condemnation; we are telling people what they ought to be doing—a standard which no one can ever measure up to perfectly.
In other words, if all you’re trying to do is to get people to stop being homosexual, first of all, you’ll fail, and second of all, you’ve missed the point–their greatest need. The law doesn’t convert anyone. We must preach the Gospel of God’s forgiveness in the cross of Jesus Christ.
As Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6:11, “and such were some of you.” In other words, the Corinthian church was made up of ex-perverts, idolaters, adulterers, fornicators, homosexuals, thieves, drunkards, revilers, swindlers, etc. But upon repentance they were readily incorporated into the Corinthian church. And such should be the mindset and goal of our churches, as opposed to staying at arms distance.
To denounce same-sex intercourse and then stop short of actively and sacrificially reaching out in love and concern to homosexuals is to have as truncated a gospel as those who mistake God’s love for “accepting people as they are” and who avoid talk of the gospels transformative power. It is to forget the costly and self-sacrificial work of God in our own lives, past and ongoing. . . .
 As John Piper rightly states,
Marriage is created and defined by God in the Scriptures as the sexual and covenantal union of a man and a woman in life-long allegiance to each other alone, as husband and wife (Genesis 1:27-28; 2:23; Matthew 19:4-6), with a view to displaying Christ’s covenant relationship to his blood-bought church (Ephesians 5:24-32).
John Piper, sermon entitled “’Let Marriage Be Held in Honor’ — Thinking Biblically About So-Called Same-Sex Marriage,” delivered on June 16th, 2012 at Bethlehem Baptist Church. <http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevindeyoung/2012/05/30/the-church-and-homosexuality-ten-commitments/>
We must not be intimidated here. The world is going to say the opposite of what is true here. They are going to say that warning people who practice homosexuality about final judgment is hateful. It is not hateful. Hate does not want people to be saved. Hate does not want people to join the family. Hate wants to destroy. And sin does destroy. If homosexual practice (and greed and idolatry and reviling and drunkenness) leads to exclusion from the kingdom of God — as the word of God says it does — then love warns. Love pleads. Love comes alongside and does all it can to help a person live — forever.
Piper, “Let Marriage Be Held in Honor.”
 Al Mohler, “My Take: The Bible condemns a lot, but here’s why we focus on homosexuality” on CNN Belief Blog, May 21st 2012
 For example, Ps 119:1-3, 14, 17-20, 24, 29, 35, 47, 52, 54, 56, 62, 66-68, 72, 77, 86, 92-93, 96, 97-104, 105, 111, 127-128, 130-131; 162-165, 167, 172.
 Robert A. J. Gagnon, The Bible and Homosexual Practice: Texts and Hermeneutics (Nashville: Abingdon Press, 2001), 492.